Dating coaches for introverts
Compare 23 dating coaches. Besides their main focus, the most common focus areas are introverts, dating for men, approach anxiety and confidence and texting and first dates. They most often work with introverts, men and engineers. Most charge $88 to $165 per hour or session.
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Alex Goldstein
Alex Goldstein is a dating anxiety coach for nerds. He helps shy and introverted singles find a serious relationship without dating apps or cold approaches. Alex is a digital nomad who had to learn how to meet and date people in cities where he knew no one. He has interviewed hundreds of nerds on his podcast about how they met their partners. He teaches the friends-first approach that most of those couples used.
Alex León
Alex León is an Austrian dating coach for men. Alex helps shy, analytical men learn to approach women in real life and turn conversations into dates. Alex built the L.E.O.N. system and has used it with 500+ men. Alex's clients come from 22 countries. Alex also coaches with The Natural Lifestyles. Most of Alex's clients work in tech, finance, engineering or consulting.
Harris O'Malley
Harris O'Malley is a dating coach and advice columnist who helps nerdy and geeky men with dating and social skills. He works under the name Paging Dr. NerdLove and has been doing this work since 2011. His advice has been featured in Nightline, Vice, The Wall Street Journal and The Guardian. He also runs a blog, podcasts, courses and books, and answers reader questions in columns three times a week.
Harry Wilmington
Harry Wilmington is a men's dating coach. She helps men with approaching women, texting, online dating, and confidence. She has coached hundreds of men and builds action plans for their dating lives. She runs the Get Girls Academy membership community and hosts a podcast and a show. She also draws on her own experience as a dater and an introvert when she coaches.
Introverted Alpha
Introverted Alpha is a dating coaching company for shy, thoughtful and analytical men. It helps them feel attractive, meet women and go on good dates. The company started in June 2014 and has coached over 600 clients one-on-one. Its main paid program, Launch Your Dating Life, runs in three phases and covers online dating profiles, approaching women in person and planning dates. Coaching starts with a call called a Clarity Consult.
Julia Malakiman
Julia Malakiman is a dating coach for men in Silicon Valley and the San Francisco Bay Area. She helps shy, analytical men and engineers get better at meeting and connecting with women. All practice happens in person, in real venues like cafes, bars and mixers. She has coached more than 500 men. She hosts The Date Worthy Man podcast and runs Bay Area Dating Cure events. She acts as a wing woman and gives feedback in the moment.
Lily Womble
Lily Womble is a feminist dating coach who helps late bloomers build a confident dating life. She is a former top matchmaker and runs Date Brazen. She has helped over 400 late bloomers move past shame and self-doubt. She hosts a podcast, wrote the book Thank You, More Please, and leads group programs that last 6 and 12 months.
Connell Barrett
Connell Barrett is a New York City dating coach who works with men. He helps them build confidence, flirt with ease, and meet women they want to date. His goal for clients is a girlfriend in 90 days or less. He hosts the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast and has appeared on Good Morning America. He teaches an approach he calls Radically Authentic, and he avoids pickup tricks.
Damien Diecke
Damien Diecke runs School of Attraction, a dating coaching business for men in Sydney, Australia. He helps men learn to approach women, talk with them, and feel confident. The business has coached men since 2009 and says it has helped thousands. Its main offer is a 3-month program built around real-world practice every weekend. Clients get personalized feedback along the way. The methods avoid pickup lines, tricks and games.
Julia Malakiman
Julia Malakiman is a dating coach for men in Silicon Valley. She works with shy, analytical men and engineers who want to get better at meeting and connecting with women. She has coached more than 500 men. All of her practice happens in person, in real venues like cafes, bars and mixers, where she acts as a wing woman and gives live feedback.
Landen
Landen is a Christian dating coach for men. He helps single Christian men build confidence, social skills, and better dating lives while keeping their faith first. He grew up very introverted and dealt with social anxiety for years. He learned communication and confidence as skills, then built a course from more than 15 years of study and field testing. He also offers a members community and live one-on-one coaching on Zoom.
Tim B
Tim B, known as Coach TimB, is a dating coach who helps driven, introverted men get past approach anxiety and turn conversations into dates. He runs Understanding Attraction, a premium coaching practice that uses an application process. He has over 10 years of experience and has coached 1,247+ men. His own start was shaky, since he could barely make eye contact at 18. He teaches a 3-phase system built on daily accountability.
Jayden
Jayden is a Sacramento dating and lifestyle coach who runs The Real Hitch. He helps men build social confidence, make more friends, and improve their dating lives. He was shy and introverted until age 17 and has worked on his own social and dating skills since 2014. He teaches straightforward, authentic methods and does not teach pickup artist techniques or manipulation. He offers phone coaching and in-person coaching in the field.
Andrew Gung
Andrew Gung is a Melbourne dating coach who runs Core Confidence Coaching. He helps shy and introverted men and women build social and dating confidence. He hosts the Dating in the Digital Age podcast, which has 39 episodes. He and his team also built Spark, an AI dating coach that helps men with texting, dating app bios and photo ranking. He has coached an Australian table tennis champion through fear of rejection and approach anxiety.
Joey Francess
Joey Francess is a dating and relationship coach who helps singles with life, love and romance. He also hosts a podcast and has written two self-help books about happiness and self-discovery. Joey gives one-on-one dating sessions built around each client's own dating goals. His podcast covers dating, relationships and personal growth, with guest experts. Joey works with introverts and shy singles, and his coaching also touches on confidence and healthy boundaries.
Tripp Kramer
Tripp Kramer is a dating coach who helps shy and introverted men meet women and find a girlfriend. He has taught men around the world since 2009. He runs the Tripp Advice brand, a YouTube channel with over 1 million subscribers, and a podcast called How To Talk To Girls. He teaches a method called the T.E.D. Formula. It focuses on being your real self, not using cheesy pickup lines.
Eddie Hernandez
Eddie Hernandez is a dating coach in San Francisco who works with men and women looking for relationships. He also serves the Bay Area and Silicon Valley, including introverts and engineers. He combines coaching with photography. He has over a decade of experience as an online dating photographer and takes natural, candid photos with a phone at custom locations like cafes, bars and art openings. He also reviews profiles on apps like Hinge and Bumble.
Lisa Flynn
Lisa Flynn is a relationship and leadership coach in San Francisco, California. She helps clients in their 30s and 40s build deeper connections, speak with confidence, and live more true to themselves. Her work centers on clearing emotional blocks so clients feel free to be themselves and create the relationships they want. She is a Certified Mastery Method Coach with ICF accreditation and holds a 200-hour yoga teacher registration. She also writes about confidence for introverted singles.
Bay Area Dating Coach
Bay Area Dating Coach is a small team of dating coaches and therapists in the San Francisco Bay Area. They help single men and women find lasting love, not just casual dating. The team works with shy singles, introverts, and people with dating anxiety. Services include online dating help, mock dates, style coaching, and a dating anxiety group. The practice also offers dating therapy alongside coaching, and serves clients worldwide.
Sebastian (Coach Seb)
Sebastian, known as Coach Seb, is a dating coach for men who runs Leading Man Attraction in the UK. He works one-on-one with men who feel overlooked by the women they want. Each client gets a custom 60-day plan. Seb goes out with clients for live field sessions and coaches them as they approach real women. He also offers daily WhatsApp support between sessions.
Constantine Alexander S
Constantine Alexander S is a life and confidence coach who works online with clients around the world. He focuses on introverts, from young adults to people in midlife. He coaches on life purpose, confidence and relationships. He holds a BA and an MSc and is currently doing PhD studies. His methods draw on CBT, ACT and positive psychology. He is based in Greece and holds several coaching certifications, including forgiveness, mindset and NLP.
Michaela Chung
Michaela Chung is a confidence and dating coach for introverts. She runs Introvert Spring, a site that reaches hundreds of thousands of readers each month. She wrote the book The Irresistible Introvert. Her media features include Forbes, Huffpost, CBC and ABC's Tamron Hall Talk Show. She offers a 60-day one-on-one confidence program that mixes video training with private coaching sessions. She also offers dating coaching for introverted men.
Vishad Doshi
Vishad Doshi is a mindset and self-esteem coach in London who runs Inner Peace Walker. He helps people work through low self-worth and build their own version of inner peace. Before coaching, he spent 14 years in investment banking operations. He holds an NLP Practitioner certification and a Master Coaching Diploma. His method looks for the root cause behind problems instead of pushing positive thinking. He calls this process mind mining.
Side by side
| Coach | Focus | Hourly rate range |
|---|---|---|
| Alex Goldstein | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $75 to $145 an hour |
| Alex León | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $75 to $150 an hour |
| Harris O'Malley | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $100 to $150 an hour |
| Harry Wilmington | Dating for men and Online dating and apps | $75 to $150 an hour |
| Introverted Alpha | Dating for men and Online dating and apps | $75 to $150 an hour |
| Julia Malakiman | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $100 to $150 an hour |
| Lily Womble | Dating for women and Matchmaking | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Connell Barrett | Dating for men and Online dating and apps | $100 to $150 an hour |
| Damien Diecke | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $80 to $250 an hour |
| Julia Malakiman | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $100 to $150 an hour |
| Landen | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $75 to $150 an hour |
| Tim B | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $100 to $150 an hour |
| Jayden | Dating for men and Approach anxiety and confidence | $100 to $150 an hour |
| Andrew Gung | Dating for men and Online dating and apps | $80 to $250 an hour |
| Joey Francess | Introverts | $90 to $150 an hour |
Common questions
How much does a dating coach cost?
Most dating coaches charge $88 to $165 per hour or session.
Can I work with a dating coach online?
Yes. Of the dating coaches on this page who say how they work, 77% offer online sessions.
What else do these dating coaches help with?
Common focus areas include introverts, dating for men, approach anxiety and confidence and texting and first dates.
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Last updated September 2026.