Harris O'Malley
Dating coach and advice columnist for nerdy and geeky men
| Hourly rate range | $100 to $150 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | Men and Introverts |
| Based in | United States |
| Practice | Paging Dr. NerdLove |
Harris O'Malley is a dating coach and advice columnist who helps nerdy and geeky men with dating and social skills. He works under the name Paging Dr. NerdLove and has been doing this work since 2011. His advice has been featured in Nightline, Vice, The Wall Street Journal and The Guardian. He also runs a blog, podcasts, courses and books, and answers reader questions in columns three times a week.
What Harris helps with
Harris works on social skills, confidence and the sticking points that hold men back in dating. He also answers specific dating questions from readers.
- Building social skills
- Becoming more attractive and confident
- Overcoming dating sticking points
- Approaching people with less fear
- Building chemistry and attraction
- Creating a social life and lifestyle that draws people in
- Understanding why women ignore you
Who Harris works with
Harris writes and coaches for nerdy and geeky men, including shy and introverted men. His site is aimed at men who want to meet women and build a relationship. Clients can send in a question or book private coaching.
How Harris works
Private coaching is a 60 minute one-on-one session. Each client gets personal attention and a customized plan of action. Harris also offers a priority messaging option with a guaranteed response within 24 hours. It is discreet and confidential. Clients can also use his books and courses alongside coaching.
Background and qualifications
Harris O'Malley is a relationship expert, dating coach and syndicated advice columnist. He started making dating advice for nerds in 2011 under the name Paging Dr. NerdLove. His work has appeared in Nightline, Fusion TV, Vice, New York Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The Guardian, Wired, Slate, Lifehacker and Kotaku. He writes a regular advice column, hosts podcasts and sells books and courses.
Harris O'Malley pricing
Programs and services
- 60 minute one-on-one coaching session
- Priority messaging with 24 hour response
- Online courses and books
- Free six-week email sequence
- Reader advice column
Harris O'Malley reviews
The CoachVouch take
Harris is a syndicated advice columnist who has written dating advice for nerds since 2011 and has been featured in major outlets.
Best for shy, nerdy or geeky men who want to build social skills and confidence in dating.
Common questions
How much does Harris O'Malley charge?
Coaching with Harris runs $100 to $150 an hour. Message Harris from this page for an exact quote.
What does Harris O'Malley help with?
Harris O'Malley helps with building social skills, becoming more attractive and confident, overcoming dating sticking points and approaching people with less fear.
Does Harris O'Malley offer one-on-one coaching?
Yes. He offers a 60 minute one-on-one session with a customized plan of action. He also offers priority messaging with a 24 hour response time.
Can I get dating advice from Harris without booking coaching?
Yes. He runs an advice column with new posts every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Readers can submit their own dating questions.
How do I contact Harris O'Malley?
Send Harris a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
Similar coaches to compare
Tick "Compare" to message several coaches at once.
Alex Goldstein
Alex Goldstein is a dating anxiety coach for nerds. He helps shy and introverted singles find a serious relationship without dating apps or cold approaches. Alex is a digital nomad who had to learn how to meet and date people in cities where he knew no one. He has interviewed hundreds of nerds on his podcast about how they met their partners. He teaches the friends-first approach that most of those couples used.
Alex León
Alex León is an Austrian dating coach for men. Alex helps shy, analytical men learn to approach women in real life and turn conversations into dates. Alex built the L.E.O.N. system and has used it with 500+ men. Alex's clients come from 22 countries. Alex also coaches with The Natural Lifestyles. Most of Alex's clients work in tech, finance, engineering or consulting.
Andrew Gung
Andrew Gung is a Melbourne dating coach who runs Core Confidence Coaching. He helps shy and introverted men and women build social and dating confidence. He hosts the Dating in the Digital Age podcast, which has 39 episodes. He and his team also built Spark, an AI dating coach that helps men with texting, dating app bios and photo ranking. He has coached an Australian table tennis champion through fear of rejection and approach anxiety.
Damien Diecke
Damien Diecke runs School of Attraction, a dating coaching business for men in Sydney, Australia. He helps men learn to approach women, talk with them, and feel confident. The business has coached men since 2009 and says it has helped thousands. Its main offer is a 3-month program built around real-world practice every weekend. Clients get personalized feedback along the way. The methods avoid pickup lines, tricks and games.
Browse related
Last updated September 2026. Request a correction.