Dating coaches for people over 40
Compare 23 dating coaches. Besides their main focus, the most common focus areas are dating over 40, couples and marriage, dating after divorce and online dating and apps. They most often work with people over 40, women and men. Most charge $88 to $165 per hour or session.
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Alison Verge
Alison Verge is a relationship and dating coach who helps busy professionals over 40 find lasting love. She runs Path2Love Coaching. She is a certified sexologist and co-author of "Radical Self Love." She also coaches couples who face a sudden shock, such as illness or disability, a challenge she knows from her own life. Her clients can meet a partner with or without dating apps.
Carol Fulwiler Jones
Carol Fulwiler Jones is a dating and relationship coach for men and women over 40 in the San Francisco Bay Area. She has worked as a licensed couples therapist for over 35 years. She holds a Master's degree in Counseling and is also a sex therapist. She now offers the methods she used in her private practice as coaching. She helps clients meet, attract and date people who are right for them.
Jill Rhodes Harvey
Jill Rhodes Harvey is a relationship and dating coach who works with women over 50. She helps women who are divorced, widowed or single and facing big life changes. Her sessions cover emotional intimacy, communication skills, family dynamics and friendships. She trained in counselling and emotional intelligence in 2013. In 2015 she was named one of the top ten UK relationship coaches for the over 40s. She coaches by phone, email, Skype or Zoom, so she works with women worldwide.
Marni Battista
Marni Battista is a dating and relationship coach who helps successful women find lasting, loving partnerships. She founded Dating with Dignity and The Institute for Living Courageously in Los Angeles. She holds a Master's Degree in Education and a coaching certification from the International Coaching Federation. She was married for 17 years, divorced, and dated again before she remarried. That path led her to build a process for women who keep ending up with unavailable men.
Shana James
Shana James is a love and dating coach who works with men and women over 40. She helps people who are dating, healing from divorce or heartbreak, or trying to bring more intimacy into a long-term relationship. She wrote Honest Sex, hosts two podcasts, and gave a TEDx talk on the divide between men and women. She holds a Master's in Psychology.
Alyssa Dineen
Alyssa Dineen is a dating coach and profile strategist in New York City. He helps adults in their forties and beyond date with more ease and safety on the apps. He built the Date Vanilla framework, which focuses on choosing steady, kind partners over flashy profiles. He also works as a stylist and hosts The Dating Lab podcast. His clients can get a full profile overhaul, ongoing coaching, or a self-paced course.
Bobbi Palmer
Bobbi Palmer is a dating coach for women over 40 and 50. He founded Date Like a Grownup. He became a first-time bride at age 47 in 2006. He divorced in 2024 and now dates as a single woman again. He has helped thousands of women around the world with dating and self-love. He teaches a three-part approach that balances head and heart, and he runs a group program for women over 50.
Jonathon Aslay
Jonathon Aslay is a dating and relationship coach for mid-life women. He runs Understand Men Now, which offers one-on-one coaching, audio programs and workbooks. His topics include spotting commitment-ready men, finding the right men online and why men pull away. He wrote the book What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? His work now also covers self-love, since he sees low self-worth as a common issue for singles.
Mairi Macleod
Mairi Macleod is a dating coach who helps women over 50 find a lasting relationship. She holds a PhD and works as a behavioural biologist. She runs Dating Evolved, which teaches women to use science to choose better partners. Her online course and group program cover mindset, online dating profiles, and where to meet men.
Ralph
Ralph runs The Dating Stoic, a dating and relationship coaching practice for middle-aged men and single dads. He builds his coaching on Stoic philosophy. He went through the end of his own marriage a decade ago and raised two teenagers as a single parent. He helps men date again after divorce and improve their current relationships. He also writes a blog and offers one-on-one sessions and packages.
Susan Edelman
Susan Edelman is a dating expert and board-certified psychiatrist who helps single women over 40 with love and dating. She has worked in private practice in Palo Alto, California for more than 35 years. She teaches at Stanford University School of Medicine and wrote the book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy, which won 14 book awards. She offers private consultations and a dating quiz that gives each woman a custom video.
Beck Thompson
Beck Thompson is a dating and relationship coach in Australia who helps singles and couples over 40 and 50. She is an award-winning coach and an international bestselling author. She hosts The Relationship Circle podcast, which started in 2023 and has 66 episodes. Each week she covers topics from first dates to long-term relationships. She also runs a free Facebook community and offers free relationship e-books and masterclasses.
Jennifer Hurvitz
Jennifer Hurvitz is a relationship expert and dating coach who helps divorced women and singles over 40 find love again. She hosts the Doing Relationships Right podcast and is a best-selling author. Her book Woulda. Coulda. Shoulda. is one of her titles. She has been through divorce and dating herself, and she uses that experience in her coaching. Her work covers online dating, life after separation, and dating in midlife.
Patty Martin-Guerra
Patty Martin-Guerra is a Christian life coach for single women over 40. He helps women heal after divorce, let go of old patterns, and meet the right man. His method has worked with hundreds of women. He runs the Mujer Renuévate podcast in Spanish and the Rising After Divorce podcast. He also offers a healing membership and women's retreats. His own story began with years of dating apps that brought clarity but no real connection.
Mark Langford
Mark Langford is a relationship coach who helps men and women in midlife find and keep love and intimacy. He has more than a decade of experience and has coached over a thousand clients. His work covers self-esteem, anxiety around the opposite sex, online dating, boundaries, heartbreak and infidelity. He also works on communication and conflict resolution in lasting relationships. Clients start with a consultation.
Karen Bigman
Karen Bigman is a certified intimacy and relationship coach and sex educator who helps men in midlife and beyond 50. She runs Taboo to Truth and hosts a podcast called Taboo to Truth: Life and Sex After 50. Her work covers desire, changing bodies, and how relationships shift over time. She also built Men Meet Menopause, a course that explains menopause and its effect on intimacy to male partners.
Alisa Bell
Alisa Bell is a confidence coach and dating coach. She helps men over 30 who face relationship challenges and women over 40 who deal with relationship issues. She is an ICF certified life coach with over 13 years of experience. Her work centers on mindset strategies that help clients reach their goals. She also coaches on goal setting, relationship building and dating advice, and she uses creative coaching techniques shaped to each client.
April A. Carter
April A. Carter is a certified relationship coach in Charlotte, North Carolina. She helps single women over 40 find a committed partner. She leads the So Long Single: APEX Alignment Mastery program, which runs 90 days. She also hosts singles events and couples events.
Rebirth Divorce and Dating Coach
Rebirth Divorce and Dating Coach helps men and women over 40 get through divorce and start dating again. The coach focuses on men and the problems they face, such as money worries, moving out of the family home, less time with children, and co-parenting with a difficult ex. When clients are ready to date, the coach draws on over 10 years of dating experience around the world. Clients also learn to avoid repeating mistakes from their last relationship.
Lynn Goodacre
Lynn Goodacre is a life and communication coach who helps women 50 and older build a full, active life. She also coaches public speaking, confidence and conversation skills. Lynn began coach training in 2010 and is certified in singles coaching. She has trained in couples coaching too. She is also a Registered Massage Therapist and a Toastmaster of over 12 years. She lives on the west coast of Canada and coaches clients online worldwide.
Laurie James
Laurie James is a somatic coach and author who helps midlife women heal after divorce, loss, and big life changes. He hosts the Confessions of a Freebird podcast, which has 134 episodes since 2023. He wrote the memoir Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting Go. He is a certified somatic practitioner. He has lived through divorce and caregiving himself, and he teaches body-based tools for starting over.
Julie Gaye Murphy
Julie Gaye Murphy is a life, relationship, divorce, blended family and career coach in Brisbane, Australia. She runs MOJO Your Life Today and helps women build confidence, handle big life changes and find a clearer path. She has a strong focus on women over 50, step-moms and women going through separation, divorce or redundancy. She also coaches retirees and small business owners on staff management and teamwork.
Joe Staszak
Joe Staszak is a life coach in Malvern, Pennsylvania. He coaches men and women over 40 who feel they have lost their edge. His main goal is helping clients get their confidence back. He also offers health and fitness, nutrition, and relationship coaching. Joe holds a Certified Master Life Coach title and a Certified Professional Coach title. He runs a program called "Be The One," which focuses on being unoffendable and letting go of ego.
Side by side
| Coach | Focus | Hourly rate range |
|---|---|---|
| Alison Verge | Dating over 40 and Online dating and apps | $80 to $140 an hour |
| Carol Fulwiler Jones | Dating over 40 and Couples and marriage | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Jill Rhodes Harvey | Dating for women and Dating after divorce | $80 to $140 an hour |
| Marni Battista | Dating for women and Dating over 40 | $100 to $175 an hour |
| Shana James | Dating after divorce and Dating over 40 | $100 to $160 an hour |
| Alyssa Dineen | Online dating and apps and Texting and first dates | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Bobbi Palmer | Dating over 40 and Dating for women | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Jonathon Aslay | Dating for women and Dating over 40 | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Mairi Macleod | Dating for women and Online dating and apps | $70 to $130 an hour |
| Ralph | Dating for men and Dating after divorce | $80 to $140 an hour |
| Susan Edelman | Dating over 40 and Dating for women | $100 to $175 an hour |
| Beck Thompson | Online dating and apps and Dating over 40 | $110 to $250 an hour |
| Jennifer Hurvitz | Dating after divorce and Dating over 40 | $100 to $200 an hour |
| Patty Martin-Guerra | Dating over 40 and Dating after divorce | $80 to $140 an hour |
| Mark Langford | Online dating and apps and Dating over 40 | $90 to $230 an hour |
Common questions
How much does a dating coach cost?
Most dating coaches charge $88 to $165 per hour or session.
What else do these dating coaches help with?
Common focus areas include dating over 40, couples and marriage, dating after divorce and online dating and apps.
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Last updated September 2026.