Dating coaches for people over 40
Compare 29 dating coaches. Besides their main focus, the most common focus areas are dating over 40, online dating and apps, couples and marriage and dating for women. They most often work with people over 40, women and men. Most charge $88 to $165 per hour or session.
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Alison Verge
Alison Verge is a relationship and dating coach who helps busy professionals over 40 find lasting love. She runs Path2Love Coaching. She is a certified sexologist and co-author of "Radical Self Love." She also coaches couples who face a sudden shock, such as illness or disability, a challenge she knows from her own life. Her clients can meet a partner with or without dating apps.
Carol Fulwiler Jones
Carol Fulwiler Jones is a dating and relationship coach for men and women over 40 in the San Francisco Bay Area. She has worked as a licensed couples therapist for over 35 years. She holds a Master's degree in Counseling and is also a sex therapist. She now offers the methods she used in her private practice as coaching. She helps clients meet, attract and date people who are right for them.
Jill Rhodes Harvey
Jill Rhodes Harvey is a relationship and dating coach who works with women over 50. She helps women who are divorced, widowed or single and facing big life changes. Her sessions cover emotional intimacy, communication skills, family dynamics and friendships. She trained in counselling and emotional intelligence in 2013. In 2015 she was named one of the top ten UK relationship coaches for the over 40s. She coaches by phone, email, Skype or Zoom, so she works with women worldwide.
Alyssa Dineen
Alyssa Dineen is a dating coach and profile strategist in New York City. She helps adults in their forties and beyond date with more ease and safety on the apps. She built the Date Vanilla framework, which focuses on choosing steady, kind partners over flashy profiles. She also works as a stylist and hosts The Dating Lab podcast. Her clients can get a full profile overhaul, ongoing coaching, or a self-paced course.
Bobbi Palmer
Bobbi Palmer is a dating coach for women over 40 and 50. She founded Date Like a Grownup. She became a first-time bride at age 47 in 2006. She divorced in 2024 and now dates as a single woman again. She has helped thousands of women around the world with dating and self-love. She teaches a three-part approach that balances head and heart, and she runs a group program for women over 50.
Mairi Macleod
Mairi Macleod is a dating coach who helps women over 50 find a lasting relationship. She holds a PhD and works as a behavioural biologist. She runs Dating Evolved, which teaches women to use science to choose better partners. Her online course and group program cover mindset, online dating profiles, and where to meet men.
Ralph
Ralph runs The Dating Stoic, a dating and relationship coaching practice for middle-aged men and single dads. He builds his coaching on Stoic philosophy. He went through the end of his own marriage a decade ago and raised two teenagers as a single parent. He helps men date again after divorce and improve their current relationships. He also writes a blog and offers one-on-one sessions and packages.
Susan Edelman
Susan Edelman is a dating expert and board-certified psychiatrist who helps single women over 40 with love and dating. She has worked in private practice in Palo Alto, California for more than 35 years. She teaches at Stanford University School of Medicine and wrote the book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy, which won 14 book awards. She offers private consultations and a dating quiz that gives each woman a custom video.
Jennifer Hurvitz
Jennifer Hurvitz is a dating coach and relationship expert who helps divorced and single women over 40 find love again. She hosts the Doing Relationships Right podcast and has written best-selling books, including One Happy Divorce. Her podcast was named one of the best relationship podcasts by Vogue Magazine. She has lived through divorce and midlife dating herself, and she uses that experience in her coaching. She works from Charlotte.
Patty Martin-Guerra
Patty Martin-Guerra is a Christian life coach for single women over 40 who want to find lasting love. She helps women heal after divorce and past relationships, let go of old patterns, and draw in the right partner. She hosts two podcasts, one in Spanish for women over 40 and one on rising after divorce. Her site and services are offered in both Spanish and English.
Beck Thompson
Beck Thompson is a dating and relationship coach in Australia. She helps singles and couples over 40 and 50 find lasting love. She is an award-winning coach and an international bestselling author. She hosts The Relationship Circle podcast, which began in 2023 and has 66 episodes. Each week she covers topics from first dates to long-term relationships, and she brings in other coaches and experts as guests. She also runs a free Facebook community.
Jonathon Aslay
Jonathon Aslay is a dating and relationship coach who helps midlife women. He runs Understand Men Now, a brand built around helping women understand how men think in love. He offers one-on-one coaching, audio programs, downloadable workbooks and a monthly membership called Mid-Life Love Mastery. He also shares advice through a podcast, a YouTube channel and a blog that covers dating, online dating, breakups and mindset.
Jonathon Aslay
Jonathon Aslay is a dating and relationship coach for men and women in mid-life. He runs Understand Men Now, a brand built around helping women understand how men think and act in love. He offers one-on-one coaching, audio programs, downloadable workbooks and a monthly membership called Mid-Life Love Mastery. He also hosts a podcast and a YouTube channel, and he writes a blog on dating, mindset, breakups and online dating.
Mark Langford
Mark Langford is a relationship coach who helps men and women in midlife find and keep love and intimacy. He has more than a decade of experience and has coached over a thousand clients. His work covers self-esteem, anxiety around the opposite sex, online dating, boundaries, heartbreak and infidelity. He also works on communication and conflict resolution in lasting relationships. Clients start with a consultation.
Rick Clemons
Rick Clemons is a coach for gay men in midlife. He helps them work on relationships, careers, confidence and purpose. Rick hosts the weekly podcast 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. He also leads a free monthly live Gay Men's Chat, one hour long. His style is blunt and direct. He pushes clients to stop settling and make one clear decision about the life they want.
SyberSue
SyberSue is a dating and relationship life coach who helps men and women with dating, breakups and love. She also writes as the advice columnist Dear Sybersue. She shares videos and posts on topics like staying friends with an ex, dating after heartbreak, texting and dating checklists. She offers online dating advice for women over 40 and has a breakup coaching page.
Anubhav Jain
Anubhav Jain is a relationship and dating coach for Indians over 35. He is an NLP Master Practitioner. He works with clients who keep seeing the same patterns in the people they meet and in their relationships. He traces these patterns to programming formed in the subconscious between ages 0 and 5. His client list includes Indian celebrities and Indian entrepreneurs.
April A. Carter
April A. Carter is a relationship coach in Charlotte, NC. She helps ambitious single women over 40 find a committed partner. Her main offer is So Long Single, a 90 day program built on her SLS Apex Alignment methods. She also runs singles events and couples events. April was her own first client.
Karen Bigman
Karen Bigman is an intimacy and relationship coach and sex educator who helps men in midlife. She runs Taboo to Truth and hosts the podcast Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50. Her work covers changing desire, relationship distance, and confidence after 50. She also created Men Meet Menopause, a course that explains to men how menopause affects intimacy and relationships.
Michele Burghardt
Michele Burghardt is a dating coach, author and speaker who helps women over 50 find love. She runs Date Great Guys, a video coaching program built around mindset, emotional openness and dating strategy. She wrote The Perfect Dating Guide for Women over 50, which covers the process from getting ready to date through the first date and beyond. She has worked in self-help for more than 20 years.
Rebirth Divorce and Dating Coach
Rebirth Divorce and Dating Coach helps men and women over 40 get through divorce and start dating again. The coach focuses on men and the problems they face, such as money worries, moving out of the family home, less time with children, and co-parenting with a difficult ex. When clients are ready to date, the coach draws on over 10 years of dating experience around the world. Clients also learn to avoid repeating mistakes from their last relationship.
Shana James
Shana James is a love coach who helps men and women find or rebuild love, intimacy and sex after 40. She works with people who feel stuck in dating, live in a long-term relationship with little spark, or are healing from divorce or heartbreak. She wrote the book Honest Sex and has spoken at TEDx. She also appears on the Practicing Love and Man Alive podcasts. Her coaching centers on emotional honesty instead of perfection.
Alisa Bell
Alisa Bell is a confidence coach and dating coach. She helps men over 30 who face relationship challenges and women over 40 who deal with relationship issues. She is an ICF certified life coach with over 13 years of experience. Her work centers on mindset strategies that help clients reach their goals. She also coaches on goal setting, relationship building and dating advice, and she uses creative coaching techniques shaped to each client.
Christine Ryan
Christine Ryan spent 30 years as a psychotherapist in private practice in Dallas before becoming a certified life coach, now working with couples on relationships and with Baby Boomers approaching retirement.
Lynn Goodacre
Lynn Goodacre is a life and confidence coach who helps women in their 50s, 60s and beyond build a full and engaging life. She also coaches singles and couples. She began coach training in 2010 and holds a Singles Coach certification from the Relationship Coaching Institute. She also holds certifications in life purpose coaching, group leading, and public speaking and workshop facilitation. She lives on the west coast of Canada and coaches clients online around the world.
Joe Staszak
Joe Staszak is a life coach in Malvern, Pennsylvania. He coaches men and women over 40 who feel they have lost their edge. His main goal is helping clients get their confidence back. He also offers health and fitness, nutrition, and relationship coaching. Joe holds a Certified Master Life Coach title and a Certified Professional Coach title. He runs a program called "Be The One," which focuses on being unoffendable and letting go of ego.
Julie Gaye Murphy
Julie Gaye Murphy is a life, relationship, divorce, blended family and career coach in Brisbane, Australia. She runs MOJO Your Life Today and helps women build confidence, handle big life changes and find a clearer path. She has a strong focus on women over 50, step-moms and women going through separation, divorce or redundancy. She also coaches retirees and small business owners on staff management and teamwork.
Laurie James
Laurie James is a somatic practitioner and coach who helps midlife women through divorce, loss, and life changes. She is the author of the memoir Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting Go. She hosts the Confessions of a Freebird podcast, which has 134 episodes since 2023. Her work uses body-based tools to help women heal, date again, and build a life that fits who they are now.
Karen Midyet
Karen Midyet is a retirement and life coach who helps aging adults plan the next chapter of their lives. She is also a psychologist. Her practice, Coaching Aging Adults, serves seniors, baby boomers and the sandwich generation. She works on life purpose, major transitions and what to expect as clients grow older. She also offers a caregiver coaching service and coaching on dating after 60, which are rare add-ons for a retirement coach.
Side by side
| Coach | Focus | Hourly rate range |
|---|---|---|
| Alison Verge | Dating over 40 and Online dating and apps | $80 to $140 an hour |
| Carol Fulwiler Jones | Dating over 40 and Couples and marriage | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Jill Rhodes Harvey | Dating for women and Dating after divorce | $80 to $140 an hour |
| Alyssa Dineen | Online dating and apps and Texting and first dates | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Bobbi Palmer | Dating over 40 and Dating for women | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Mairi Macleod | Dating for women and Online dating and apps | $70 to $130 an hour |
| Ralph | Dating for men and Dating after divorce | $80 to $140 an hour |
| Susan Edelman | Dating over 40 and Dating for women | $100 to $175 an hour |
| Jennifer Hurvitz | Dating after divorce and Dating over 40 | $100 to $200 an hour |
| Patty Martin-Guerra | Dating after divorce and Dating over 40 | $100 to $200 an hour |
| Beck Thompson | Dating over 40 and Online dating and apps | $95 to $175 an hour |
| Jonathon Aslay | Dating for women and Online dating and apps | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Jonathon Aslay | Dating over 40 and Online dating and apps | $100 to $225 an hour |
| Mark Langford | Online dating and apps and Dating over 40 | $90 to $230 an hour |
| Rick Clemons | LGBTQ dating and Dating over 40 | $100 to $225 an hour |
Common questions
How much does a dating coach cost?
Most dating coaches charge $88 to $165 per hour or session.
What else do these dating coaches help with?
Common focus areas include dating over 40, online dating and apps, couples and marriage and dating for women.
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Last updated September 2026.