Alyssa Dineen
Dating coach and profile strategist for midlife adults in New York City
| Hourly rate range | $100 to $225 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | Men, Women and People over 40 |
| Also coaches | Life coach |
| Based in | New York City, New York, United States |
| Practice | Style My Profile |
Alyssa Dineen is a dating coach and profile strategist in New York City. He helps adults in their forties and beyond date with more ease and safety on the apps. He built the Date Vanilla framework, which focuses on choosing steady, kind partners over flashy profiles. He also works as a stylist and hosts The Dating Lab podcast. His clients can get a full profile overhaul, ongoing coaching, or a self-paced course.
What Alyssa helps with
Alyssa helps adults who are back on dating apps and are getting few real dates. He works on the profile, the messages, and the mindset behind choosing a partner.
- Fixing a profile that gets matches but no dates
- Choosing better photos and writing a stronger bio
- Picking the right dating apps
- Improving messaging that goes nowhere
- Rebuilding confidence after years away from dating
- Choosing steady partners over flashy ones
- Setting filters that fit what you want
Who Alyssa works with
Alyssa works with adults in their forties and beyond. Many are back on the apps after decades away. His clients include women and men who feel lost with vague bios, blurry photos, and chats that stall.
How Alyssa works
Alyssa teaches his Date Vanilla framework. It puts substance and real connection ahead of performative profiles. It looks for partners who show up, listen, follow through, and make you feel safe. In one-on-one coaching he guides clients on photos, bios, app selection, and messaging. He also offers a profile photoshoot and a self-paced course.
Background and qualifications
Alyssa Dineen is a dating coach, profile strategist, and stylist based in New York City. He hosts The Dating Lab podcast, where he talks with experts about dating, red and green flags, and working with the apps. His Date Vanilla framework comes from his own dating experience. He once chased flashy profiles and felt anxious. Then he met a man with a plain profile who was kind and consistent, and they have been together eight years.
Alyssa Dineen pricing
Programs and services
- One-on-one profile strategy and coaching
- Profile photoshoot
- Self-paced Date Vanilla course
- Free consultation call
- Free Date Vanilla webinar
- Free dating app checklist
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The CoachVouch take
Created the Date Vanilla framework, which steers midlife daters toward steady partners instead of flashy profiles.
Common questions
How much does Alyssa Dineen charge?
Coaching with Alyssa runs $100 to $225 an hour. Message Alyssa from this page for an exact quote.
What does Alyssa Dineen help with?
Alyssa Dineen helps with fixing a profile that gets matches but no dates, choosing better photos and writing a stronger bio, picking the right dating apps and improving messaging that goes nowhere.
Does Alyssa Dineen help with dating profile photos?
Yes. His one-on-one coaching covers photos, bios, app selection, and messaging. He also offers a profile photoshoot.
Who is the Date Vanilla framework for?
It is for adults in their forties and beyond who want lasting, healthy relationships. It favors substance over flash.
How do I contact Alyssa Dineen?
Send Alyssa a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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