Dating coaches for neurodivergent adults
Compare 10 dating coaches. Besides their main focus, the most common focus areas are couples and marriage, LGBTQ dating, approach anxiety and confidence and online dating and apps. They most often work with neurodivergent adults, LGBTQ+ and couples. Most charge $88 to $165 per hour or session.
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Alex Gay
Alex Gay is a sex and relationship coach who helps LGBTQIA+ people, neurodivergent people, singles and couples build confidence in dating and intimacy. Alex is ICF certified and has extra training in anxiety, depression, CBT, DBT and ACT. Alex hosts The Queer Confidence Podcast and the Kink Curious Podcast, and also works as an on-set coach. Sessions run online worldwide or in person in San Diego. Alex was formerly known as Coach Ray.
Mandy Staehler
Mandy Staehler is a relationship coach for autistic and neurodivergent adults and people with social challenges. She helps clients with dating, friendships, and making connections. She is a certified PEERS social skills coach and has over 10 years of experience educating young adults with disabilities. She also supports special education and runs support groups through Autism Society of Colorado. She coaches in Denver and across the US.
Emily Sirona
Emily Sirona is a dating and relationship coach in Michigan who helps people heal anxious relationship patterns and recover after breakups. She also works as a somatic trauma healing coach. She has more than 15 years of training and experience in nervous system healing. Her work targets patterns at the nervous system level, not only in the thinking mind. She serves ADHD, neurodivergent, highly sensitive and empathic people.
Angie Enger
Angie Enger is an intimacy and pleasure coach who helps women feel at home in their own bodies and desire. She is based in Maplewood, New Jersey. She worked in marketing for 15 years before she turned to coaching. She holds a master's degree in counseling and worked as a sex educator at a teen clinic in Minnesota. She built her own three-phase framework, Come Home, Expand, Flow. She is LGBTQ+ affirming, kink-aware and ENM-positive.
Sophia Bloom
Sophia Bloom is a dating coach in Massachusetts who helps analytical men build confidence and find healthy partners. She holds a psychology degree and was trained by industry professionals. Her clients are often engineers, mathematicians, programmers and lawyers. She uses a method called brain mapping to find the patterns behind a client's behavior and attraction. She says real change comes from a process, not quick tips.
Daniela Wirick
Daniela Wirick is an ADHD, life and relationship coach in Westlake Village, California. She helps overwhelmed achievers improve focus, motivation and time management. She is an ICF Certified Professional Coach and a Gottman trained relationship coach. She is trauma-informed and coaches in English and Spanish. She also works with teens and young adults on school, career and life changes, and with people who have ADHD, ASD or high sensitivity.
Joy Zalzala-Soyka
Joy Zalzala-Soyka is a life coach for ADHDers, queer people and other neurodivergent adults. Joy is a certified ADHD life coach based in Germany and holds an ICF ACC credential. Sessions run online by Zoom or phone. Joy uses somatic tools to help clients ease stress and act on their goals. Clients include PhD candidates, academics, creatives in writing, painting, photography and tech, and parents. Joy also runs a five week group program called Complex Identities, Creatively Thriving.
Lisa Knudson
Lisa Knudson is a life and relationship coach in Black Mountain, North Carolina. She coaches neurodivergent and highly sensitive adults who feel misunderstood. Before coaching, she worked as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in North Carolina and Texas for a combined 35 years. She started Courage to Be Real Coaching in January 2025 and works with clients across the United States. She is a highly sensitive person herself, so she knows many of the same struggles her clients face.
Pete Tobias
Pete Tobias is a life, relationship and ADHD coach based in Dubai. He uses psychodynamic coaching to help people who think differently break patterns that keep them stuck in work, relationships and goals. He is an accredited counsellor and EMDR therapist trained in the UK. He works with clients in the UAE and Gulf states, including many who are neurodivergent.
Chelsea Wittlich
Chelsea Wittlich is an embodiment and emotional intelligence coach who works one-on-one with recovering people-pleasers. She is also a sexuality educator who leads workshops on sensitive sexuality topics. Her coaching uses body-based practices like breathwork and guided visualization to build self-awareness and self-love. She holds a master's in human sexuality education. She also uses conversations about sex, death, and rock climbing to help clients connect with others.
Side by side
| Coach | Focus | Hourly rate range |
|---|---|---|
| Alex Gay | Couples and marriage and LGBTQ dating | $110 to $200 an hour |
| Mandy Staehler | Couples and marriage | $110 to $200 an hour |
| Emily Sirona | Attachment styles and Breakups and heartbreak | $100 to $160 an hour |
| Angie Enger | Dating for women and LGBTQ dating | $100 to $200 an hour |
| Sophia Bloom | Dating for men and Attachment styles | $115 to $210 an hour |
| Daniela Wirick | Couples and marriage | $110 to $150 an hour |
| Joy Zalzala-Soyka | ADHD and neurodivergent life coach working online from Germany | $110 to $150 an hour |
| Lisa Knudson | Life and relationship coach for neurodivergent and sensitive adults | $155 to $195 per hour |
| Pete Tobias | Psychodynamic life and ADHD coach in Dubai | $80 to $150 an hour |
| Chelsea Wittlich | Couples and marriage | $80 to $155 an hour |
Common questions
How much does a dating coach cost?
Most dating coaches charge $88 to $165 per hour or session.
What else do these dating coaches help with?
Common focus areas include couples and marriage, LGBTQ dating, approach anxiety and confidence and online dating and apps.
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Last updated September 2026.