Alan Cox
Dating and monogamy coach for gay men
| Hourly rate range | $80 to $250 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | Dating for menOnline dating and appsAttachment stylesCouples and marriageDating over 40Confidence and self-esteemGoal setting and accountability |
| Works with | Men and LGBTQ+ |
| Also coaches | Life coach |
| Credentials | CBT practitioner |
| Practice | The Gay Monogamy Coach |
Alan Cox is a life coach and CBT practitioner who helps gay men move from casual dating to a committed, monogamous relationship. He also facilitates workshops and is an author. He hosts The Gay Monogamy Coach podcast, which has 140 episodes since 2024. Episodes cover attachment styles, the cost of dating apps, and how to build a life that fits a lasting relationship. His work centers on clarity, confidence, and clear relationship goals.
What Alan helps with
Alan works with gay men who want one committed relationship and are stuck in casual dating. He covers the emotional, mental, and practical sides of that shift.
- Moving from casual dating to a committed relationship
- Understanding avoidant and anxious attachment in dating
- Burnout from dating apps
- Deciding whether to pause, cut back on, or test time away from apps
- Feeling pressure that wanting monogamy means being unfinished
- Success at work but an unsettled personal life
- Getting clear on real relationship goals
Who Alan works with
Alan coaches gay men who want a committed, monogamous relationship. Many episodes speak to midlife gay men. Some listeners are successful in their careers but feel stuck in their personal lives. Others are worn out by dating apps.
Background and qualifications
Alan Cox is a life coach and CBT practitioner. He is also a workshop facilitator and an author. Since 2024 he has hosted The Gay Monogamy Coach podcast, with 140 episodes. Each episode looks at one area around monogamy and adds practical life coaching techniques. Topics include attachment styles in midlife, the cost of dating apps, and the pressure some gay men feel about wanting monogamy.
Alan Cox pricing
Programs and services
- Podcast
- Workshops
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The CoachVouch take
Alan focuses only on helping gay men build committed, monogamous relationships, and he hosts a podcast on the topic with 140 episodes.
Best for gay men who want a committed, monogamous relationship and feel stuck in casual dating or app fatigue.
Common questions
How much does Alan Cox charge?
Coaching with Alan runs $80 to $250 an hour. Message Alan from this page for an exact quote.
What does Alan Cox help with?
Alan Cox helps with moving from casual dating to a committed relationship, understanding avoidant and anxious attachment in dating, burnout from dating apps and deciding whether to pause, cut back on, or test time away from apps.
Is Alan Cox certified?
Alan Cox lists: CBT practitioner.
Does Alan Cox coach gay men in midlife?
Yes. Many of his podcast episodes speak to midlife gay men, including one on attachment styles and one on stepping back from dating apps.
Does Alan Cox use CBT in his work?
Alan is a CBT practitioner. His podcast episodes pair each monogamy topic with practical life coaching techniques.
How do I contact Alan Cox?
Send Alan a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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