Alan Cox
Dating and life coach for gay men seeking committed relationships
| Hourly rate range | $100 to $150 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | Attachment stylesOnline dating and appsLGBTQ datingDating over 40Confidence and self-esteemGoal setting and accountability |
| Works with | Men and LGBTQ+ |
| Also coaches | Life coach |
| Credentials | CBT practitioner |
| Practice | The Gay Monogamy Coach |
Alan Cox is a life coach and CBT practitioner who coaches gay men on moving from casual dating to a committed, monogamous relationship. He also works as a workshop facilitator and author. He hosts The Gay Monogamy Coach podcast, which has 140 episodes since 2024. His episodes cover attachment styles in midlife, dating app burnout, and quitting the apps. He focuses on emotional, psychological and practical steps toward clarity, confidence and clear relationship goals.
What Alan helps with
Alan helps gay men who want one committed relationship and are moving on from casual dating. He works on the emotional and practical sides of that shift.
- Moving from casual dating to a committed relationship
- Understanding avoidant and anxious attachment in dating
- Burnout from dating apps
- Deciding whether to pause or quit dating apps
- Getting clear on real relationship goals
- Building confidence in dating
- Balancing a strong career with an unsettled personal life
Who Alan works with
Alan works with gay men who want a committed, monogamous relationship. Many episodes speak to midlife gay men. They include men who feel worn down by dating apps and men whose careers are strong while their personal lives feel stuck.
How Alan works
Alan uses practical life coaching techniques alongside his CBT training. His podcast episodes each take one topic around monogamy. One series walks midlife gay men through three paths for dating apps: A full pause or quit, a serious rule-bound reduction, or a defined experiment.
Background and qualifications
Alan Cox is a life coach and CBT practitioner. He also facilitates workshops and is an author. He started podcasting in 2024 and has released 140 episodes of The Gay Monogamy Coach. The show looks at the emotional, psychological and practical sides of moving from casual dating to a committed relationship.
Alan Cox pricing
Programs and services
- Podcast: The Gay Monogamy Coach
- Workshops
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The CoachVouch take
Alan pairs CBT training with life coaching and focuses only on gay men who want monogamous relationships.
Best for gay men, including those in midlife, who want a committed monogamous relationship.
Common questions
How much does Alan Cox charge?
Coaching with Alan runs $100 to $150 an hour. Request an intro for an exact quote.
What does Alan Cox help with?
Alan Cox helps with moving from casual dating to a committed relationship, understanding avoidant and anxious attachment in dating, burnout from dating apps and deciding whether to pause or quit dating apps.
Is Alan Cox certified?
Alan Cox lists: CBT practitioner.
Who does Alan Cox coach?
Alan coaches gay men who want to move from casual dating to a committed, monogamous relationship.
Does Alan Cox cover dating app burnout?
Yes. His podcast covers app burnout and offers three paths for stepping back from the apps.
How do I contact Alan Cox?
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