Pat Stedman
Dating and relationship coach for men
| Hourly rate range | $80 to $250 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | Dating for menAttraction and confidence |
| Works with | Men |
| Also coaches | Spiritual coach |
Pat Stedman is a dating and relationship coach who works with men. He has coached more than 375 men on their relationships with women. He spent 8 years studying dating and relationships before he turned pro, after he began as a socially anxious man. He writes a newsletter read by over 6,500 men. He also built a free self-audit tool that finds what holds a man back with women.
What Pat helps with
Pat helps men figure out why they are not getting the results they want with women. He then gives them a clear plan to fix it.
- Finding the one thing holding you back with women
- Understanding what women want
- Building attraction without money or looks
- Improving relationships with women
- Moving past heartbreak and social anxiety
Who Pat works with
Pat works with men who want better dating lives and stronger relationships with women. His clients are men who feel stuck and do not know why they get the results they get. He runs each client through the same diagnostic first.
How Pat works
Pat uses a diagnostic called The 3 Pillars of Attraction Self-Audit. It splits attraction into three areas: Preselection, Persona, and Personality. The tool shows which area is capping a man's results. Pat runs every coaching client through it to find the weak link. Clients then get a specific action plan to fix it.
Background and qualifications
Pat Stedman started coaching after his first serious relationship ended and left him heartbroken. He found a well-known book on dating and spent 8 years learning about dating, relationships, and psychology. He worked under other coaches and visited spiritual communes. A friend pointed out his talent for guiding men through personal issues, so he turned pro. He has since coached more than 375 men.
Pat Stedman pricing
Programs and services
- One-on-one coaching
- Free Attraction Audit diagnostic
- Weekly email newsletter
- Online course
Pat Stedman reviews
The CoachVouch take
Pat uses his own 3 Pillars of Attraction Self-Audit to find the single weak point holding each client back.
Best for men who want to attract women and need to know what to fix first.
Common questions
How much does Pat Stedman charge?
Coaching with Pat runs $80 to $250 an hour. Request an intro for an exact quote.
What does Pat Stedman help with?
Pat Stedman helps with finding the one thing holding you back with women, understanding what women want, building attraction without money or looks and improving relationships with women.
What is the 3 Pillars of Attraction Self-Audit?
It is a short diagnostic Pat made that breaks attraction into Preselection, Persona, and Personality. It shows which one is holding a man back and gives an action plan.
How do I contact Pat Stedman?
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