Pat Stedman
Dating and relationship coach for men
| Hourly rate range | $70 to $125 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | Men |
| Also coaches | Spiritual coach |
| Experience | 11 years coaching |
Pat Stedman is a dating and relationship coach for men. He has coached 375+ men and has 11+ years of coaching experience. He built his own approach after 8 years of studying dating and relationships. He created The 3 Pillars of Attraction Self-Audit, a diagnostic that breaks attraction into Preselection, Persona and Personality. He also writes a newsletter read by over 6,500 men. It covers dating, marriage and relationships.
What Pat helps with
Pat works with men on dating, attraction and relationships. He helps single men, men in relationships and married men.
- Finding the one weak spot holding you back with women
- Meeting high-quality women who fit your lifestyle
- Choosing the right partner and avoiding the wrong ones
- Improving an existing relationship
- Repairing a struggling marriage
- Building confidence in dating
Who Pat works with
Pat coaches men who want better results with women. Some are single and want to meet the right partner. Others are in a relationship or married and want to improve it. He also works with men who feel lost in dating and want a guide.
How Pat works
Pat starts clients with a diagnostic called The 3 Pillars of Attraction Self-Audit. It sorts attraction into three areas: Preselection, Persona and Personality. It shows which area is holding a man back and gives him a specific action plan. Pat runs his coaching clients through this same diagnostic. He also shares his ideas in a newsletter that goes out 3 times a week.
Background and qualifications
Pat Stedman began his path after his first serious relationship ended. He spent 8 years studying dating, relationships and game. He worked under other coaches and visited spiritual communes. A friend pointed out his talent for guiding men through personal issues, so he turned pro. He has coached 300+ one-on-one over 10 years and reports 375+ men coached in total. Hundreds more have bought his course.
Pat Stedman pricing
Programs and services
- One-on-one coaching
- Online course
- Free newsletter
- Free Attraction Audit diagnostic
Pat Stedman reviews
The CoachVouch take
Pat built his own diagnostic, The 3 Pillars of Attraction Self-Audit, and uses it with every coaching client.
Best for men who want to find the right partner or improve their relationship with women.
Common questions
How much does Pat Stedman charge?
Coaching with Pat runs $70 to $125 an hour. Message Pat from this page for an exact quote.
What does Pat Stedman help with?
Pat Stedman helps with finding the one weak spot holding you back with women, meeting high-quality women who fit your lifestyle, choosing the right partner and avoiding the wrong ones and improving an existing relationship.
Does Pat Stedman coach men who are already married or in a relationship?
Yes. He works with single men, men in relationships and married men. He helps men who want to fix or improve their marriage.
What is the 3 Pillars of Attraction Self-Audit?
It is a diagnostic Pat created that covers Preselection, Persona and Personality. It shows which area is holding a man back and gives him an action plan.
How do I contact Pat Stedman?
Send Pat a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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