Jessica J
Dating coach for men, based in the United States
| Hourly rate range | $100 to $150 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | Men |
| Based in | United States |
| Practice | Jessica J Dating |
Jessica J is a dating coach who helps men with dating, sex and self-confidence. She uses Solution-Focused Therapy principles in her work. She started out training as a marriage and family therapist in Hollywood, then became the resident dating coach and host of the Playboy Radio show The Couch. She was featured on Nightline as one of America's Most Desirable Daters. She also runs an award-winning YouTube channel and offers a free strategy session.
What Jessica helps with
Jessica works with men who want to understand women better and get what they want in dating. She also helps them with self-related issues that hold them back.
- Freezing up or hesitating when approaching women
- Learning to lead conversations with clear intent
- Understanding how women read a man's behavior
- Building real-time confidence around women
- Finding blind spots that kill momentum in conversations
- Creating quick connection and chemistry when meeting women
Who Jessica works with
Jessica coaches men who want to understand women and themselves better. Many of them freeze or hesitate when it is time to start a conversation or move an interaction forward. She helps them show clear intent without feeling awkward or forced.
How Jessica works
Jessica uses Solution-Focused Therapy principles in her coaching. She starts with a private consult call. On that call she finds where a man hesitates in conversations with women and points out the blind spots that slow her down. From there she builds her confidence so she can show clear intent in real time. She also offers a free strategy session and a quiz that shows how attractive a man is to the women she wants.
Background and qualifications
Jessica grew up in New Jersey. She first trained to become a marriage and family therapist in Hollywood, CA, where she handled marriage and parenting matters. She later wrote sex advice for an instructional porn company. She then returned to guidance work and became a personal dating coach for men. She was the resident dating coach and host of the Playboy Radio show The Couch, where she helped men, women and couples. Nightline featured her as one of America's Most Desirable Daters.
Jessica J pricing
Programs and services
- Free strategy session
- Private coaching consult call
- Courses and coaching
- Free dating quiz
- Award-winning YouTube channel
Jessica J reviews
The CoachVouch take
A female dating coach for men who once hosted the Playboy Radio show The Couch and had the most messaged online dating profile in Los Angeles.
Best for men who hesitate to approach women and want to lead conversations with confidence.
Common questions
How much does Jessica J charge?
Coaching with Jessica runs $100 to $150 an hour. Message Jessica from this page for an exact quote.
What does Jessica J help with?
Jessica J helps with freezing up or hesitating when approaching women, learning to lead conversations with clear intent, understanding how women read a man's behavior and building real-time confidence around women.
Does Jessica J coach women?
Her main focus is coaching men in dating, sex and self-related topics. On Playboy Radio she also helped women and couples.
What method does Jessica J use?
She uses Solution-Focused Therapy principles. She works with men on understanding women and themselves.
How do I contact Jessica J?
Send Jessica a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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