Jay
Dating coach for men, with 1-on-1 mentorship and online programs
| Hourly rate range | $80 to $250 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | Men |
| Based in | Los Angeles, California, United States |
| Sessions | Online |
| Practice | The Real Game |
Jay runs The Real Game, a dating coaching business for men. He teaches texting, approaching, converting matches to dates, running dates and keeping a woman's interest. He worked in consulting before coaching and uses that to break dating into a step-by-step system. He offers 1-on-1 mentorship and a library of online programs. He is based in Los Angeles.
What Jay helps with
Jay helps men who lose women early, fail to turn interest into dates, or cannot keep attraction once a date starts.
- Texting women and turning chats into dates
- Approaching women at bars, coffee shops and clubs
- Building a dating profile and online presence
- Planning and leading dates
- Keeping frame and interest after the first date
- Building confidence and mindset in dating
- Understanding female psychology
- Handling a woman who comes back after losing interest
How Jay works
Jay teaches a system that runs from mindset to first attraction, converting to dates, leading dates and keeping frame. His coaching is 1-on-1 mentorship through direct messages. His training also uses recorded client breakdowns, a recorded real date, and a visual texting framework built in Miro.
Background and qualifications
Jay worked in consulting before he started coaching. He says that work taught him to spot patterns, find hidden problems and turn scattered experience into a structured system. He has spent over 10,000 hours with women and tested his methods in real dating situations. The Real Game is the system he built from that experience.
Jay pricing
Programs and services
- 1-on-1 mentorship through direct messages (1% Man Coaching)
- 1 hour consultation
- Free texting guide
- Online video and e-book programs
- Full training library with lifetime access
- Recorded live date masterclass
Jay reviews
The CoachVouch take
Jay teaches with recorded material from real dates and real client text exchanges, including a full one-hour date recording.
Best for men who want a structured system for texting, approaching and closing dates.
Common questions
How much does Jay charge?
Coaching with Jay runs $80 to $250 an hour. Message Jay from this page for an exact quote.
What does Jay help with?
Jay helps with texting women and turning chats into dates, approaching women at bars, coffee shops and clubs, building a dating profile and online presence and planning and leading dates.
Does Jay coach online?
Jay is based in Los Angeles, California, United States. Sessions are online.
Does The Real Game offer 1-on-1 coaching?
Yes. Jay offers 1% Man Coaching, a 1-on-1 mentorship done through direct messages. He also offers a 1 hour consultation.
Can I learn The Real Game without coaching?
Yes. The Real Game sells online programs on texting, approaching, online dating and dates. There is also a full library with lifetime access.
How do I contact Jay?
Send Jay a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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