Jay
Dating coach for men, based in Los Angeles
| Hourly rate range | $80 to $250 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | Men |
| Based in | Los Angeles, California, United States |
| Sessions | Online |
| Practice | The Real Game |
Jay runs The Real Game, a dating coaching business for men. He teaches men how to read female behavior, build frame, and turn matches into dates. He worked in consulting before coaching, and he uses that training to spot patterns and build a step-by-step system. Clients can take online programs or apply for 1% Man coaching, which gives direct access to Jay. He also offers a free texting guide.
What Jay helps with
Jay works with men who lose attraction early, cannot close dates, or have no framework for dating. His system covers mindset, first contact, dates, and keeping a woman's interest.
- Losing attraction before a first date
- Weak approaches and poor texting
- Getting dates from matches and conversations
- Keeping control of the dynamic on dates
- Escalating dates and keeping her interested
- Understanding female psychology
- Changing beliefs that hold back dating results
How Jay works
The Real Game is built as a system with set stages. These include internal mindset work, female psychology, initial attraction and volume, converting to dates, running and escalating dates, and retention and frame control. Men can follow the online programs on their own time. The 1% Man coaching gives direct access to Jay.
Background and qualifications
Jay built The Real Game from his own experience in dating. He also has a background in consulting. That work taught him to find patterns, diagnose hidden problems, and turn scattered experience into a structured system. He applies that method to dating coaching for men.
Jay pricing
Programs and services
- Online programs
- 1% Man coaching
- Free texting guide
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The CoachVouch take
Jay applies a consulting background to build a structured, step-by-step dating system for men.
Best for men who want a clear dating system and direct access to Jay through 1% Man coaching.
Common questions
How much does Jay charge?
Coaching with Jay runs $80 to $250 an hour. Request an intro for an exact quote.
What does Jay help with?
Jay helps with losing attraction before a first date, weak approaches and poor texting, getting dates from matches and conversations and keeping control of the dynamic on dates.
Does Jay coach online?
Jay is based in Los Angeles, California, United States. Sessions are online.
Does The Real Game require changing looks, money, or status?
No. The program is built to work without changing looks, money, or status.
How do I contact Jay?
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