Alex Ray
LGBTQ+ sex and relationship coach in San Diego and online
| Hourly rate range | $100 to $150 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | LGBTQ datingApproach anxiety and confidenceCouples and marriageTexting and first datesConfidence and self-esteem |
| Works with | LGBTQ+, Couples and Neurodivergent adults |
| Also coaches | Life coach and ADHD coach |
| Based in | San Diego, United States |
| Sessions | Online and in person |
| Practice | Coach Alex Ray |
Alex Ray is a sex and relationship coach who helps LGBTQ+ individuals and couples build confidence in dating and intimacy. Alex works with clients on anxiety, communication, kink exploration and deeper connection. Sessions are available in San Diego and online. Alex hosts two podcasts, The Queer Confidence Podcast and the Kink Curious Podcast. Clients include neurodivergent people, couples and performers. Alex also offers workshops and an Intimacy Type quiz.
What Alex helps with
Alex helps clients get past anxiety and old patterns that hurt their dating and sex lives. The work also covers speaking up for needs and rebuilding trust.
- Sexual confidence and anxiety
- Communicating desires and needs
- Exploring kink safely
- Rebuilding trust in relationships
- Navigating dating
- Working through polyamory and throuple challenges
- Hookups that fizzle or relationships that break down
Who Alex works with
Alex works with LGBTQIA+ individuals, couples and performers. Neurodivergent clients are part of the practice too. Past clients include people ending dead-end relationships, exploring kink, redefining polyamory and moving from a couple to a throuple.
Background and qualifications
Alex Ray is a sex and relationship coach who offers private coaching and workshops. Alex hosts The Queer Confidence Podcast and the Kink Curious Podcast. The practice is sex-positive and kink-affirming. Alex also created a short quiz that shows a person's Intimacy Type and why hookups or relationships struggle.
Alex Ray pricing
Programs and services
- Private coaching
- Workshops
- Couples coaching
- Intimacy Type quiz
- Email insider list
Alex Ray reviews
The CoachVouch take
Hosts two podcasts, one for queer confidence and one for kink curiosity, alongside sex-positive coaching.
Best for LGBTQ+ or neurodivergent people and couples who want more confidence in dating, sex and communication.
Common questions
How much does Alex Ray charge?
Coaching with Alex runs $100 to $150 an hour. Request an intro for an exact quote.
What does Alex Ray help with?
Alex Ray helps with sexual confidence and anxiety, communicating desires and needs, exploring kink safely and rebuilding trust in relationships.
Does Alex Ray coach online?
Alex is based in San Diego, United States. Sessions are online and in person.
How do I contact Alex Ray?
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