AJ Harbinger
Men's dating and social skills coach in Los Angeles
| Hourly rate range | $80 to $250 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | Dating for menConfidence and self-esteem |
| Works with | Men |
| Also coaches | Life coach and Career coach |
| Based in | Los Angeles, California, United States |
| Experience | 17 years coaching |
| Practice | The Art of Charm |
AJ Harbinger is a men's dating and social skills coach who runs The Art of Charm in Los Angeles. AJ hosts The Art of Charm podcast. AJ has worked with more than 10,000 clients over 17 years. AJ's programs teach conversation, networking, confidence and social skills for work, friendships and dating. AJ teaches a method called the Social Calibration Method.
What AJ helps with
AJ works on social skills that affect dating, friendships and work. AJ's programs help people who feel overlooked or awkward in social settings.
- Turning casual chats into strong connections
- Feeling confident walking into any room
- Networking at events and meetings
- Feeling drained or awkward in conversations
- Being overlooked for promotions at work
- Building deeper friendships
- Improving dating life
Who AJ works with
Clients include professionals who feel overlooked at work or overwhelmed socially. Past clients named on the site include a managing director, a software engineer and a data analyst. The programs also serve people who want better friendships and dating lives.
How AJ works
Training is built on the Social Calibration Method. It teaches social skills without faking them or forcing conversations. Programs include Captivate and Connect, Conversation Radar, X-Factor Accelerator and Unstoppable Confidence. Conversation Radar teaches a system for reading conversations. The site also offers a 60-second Influence Index assessment that shows social strengths and blind spots.
Background and qualifications
AJ Harbinger leads The Art of Charm, a Los Angeles company that teaches social skills and dating skills to men. The company has worked with more than 10,000 clients over 17 years. AJ hosts The Art of Charm podcast. The Art of Charm and Art of Charm School are registered trademarks of The Art of Charm Inc.
AJ Harbinger pricing
Programs and services
- Captivate and Connect workshop
- Conversation Radar
- X-Factor Accelerator
- Unstoppable Confidence
- Influence Index assessment
AJ Harbinger reviews
The CoachVouch take
Has worked with more than 10,000 clients over 17 years and hosts The Art of Charm podcast.
Best for men who feel overlooked socially and want stronger networking, friendships and dating skills.
Common questions
How much does AJ Harbinger charge?
Coaching with AJ runs $80 to $250 an hour. Message AJ from this page for an exact quote.
What does AJ Harbinger help with?
AJ Harbinger helps with turning casual chats into strong connections, feeling confident walking into any room, networking at events and meetings and feeling drained or awkward in conversations.
Does AJ Harbinger have a podcast?
Yes. AJ hosts The Art of Charm podcast.
How do I contact AJ Harbinger?
Send AJ a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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