Jessica Da Silva
Attachment and relationship coach for anxious attachment
| Hourly rate range | $100 to $150 an hour |
|---|---|
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| Credentials | Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist |
| Practice | Jessica Da Silva Coaching |
Jessica Da Silva is an attachment and relationship coach. She helps clients break unhealthy relationship patterns and build the habits and emotional security of secure attachment. She is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, but her coaching is action-oriented and focused on change now. She created the My Secure Self Method and the question "What Would Secure Me Do?" Clients practice new behaviors between sessions.
What Jessica helps with
Jessica works with clients on attachment wounds and unhealthy patterns in dating and relationships. The goal is to act from a secure self instead of reacting when triggered.
- Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns
- Healing attachment wounds
- Responding from a secure self instead of reacting
- Building emotional regulation skills
- Improving communication in relationships
- Setting boundaries that build self-trust
- Reframing insecurities
- Feeling more secure in dating and relationships
How Jessica works
Jessica uses the My Secure Self Method. Clients learn their attachment style and their insecure self. They create a Secure Self Blueprint and learn to tell secure patterns from triggered ones. They practice responding from the secure self, reframe insecurities, and set boundaries. Clients apply new behaviors, communication patterns and habits between sessions, guided by the question "What Would Secure Me Do?"
Background and qualifications
Jessica Da Silva is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. She now works as a coach, and her coaching is different from traditional therapy. Therapy often focuses on insight, exploration and the past. Her coaching is action-oriented and solution-focused. She built the My Secure Self Method to help clients develop the mindset, habits and skills of secure attachment.
Jessica Da Silva pricing
Programs and services
- 1:1 attachment coaching
- Free consultation
- Secure Self Toolkit
- Free attachment style quiz
- Podcast
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The CoachVouch take
She is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who coaches with her own trademarked method, the My Secure Self Method.
Best for people with anxious attachment who want to change relationship patterns with action, not only insight.
Common questions
How much does Jessica Da Silva charge?
Coaching with Jessica runs $100 to $150 an hour. Message Jessica from this page for an exact quote.
What does Jessica Da Silva help with?
Jessica Da Silva helps with breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, healing attachment wounds, responding from a secure self instead of reacting and building emotional regulation skills.
Is Jessica Da Silva certified?
Jessica Da Silva lists: Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist.
How is Jessica's coaching different from therapy?
Her coaching is action-oriented and solution-focused. Clients put new behaviors into practice between sessions instead of focusing mainly on understanding the past.
How do I contact Jessica Da Silva?
Send Jessica a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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