Wesley Toma
Relationship coach for LGBTQIA+ and kink communities in Massachusetts
| Hourly rate range | $110 to $200 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | LGBTQ+ and Couples |
| Also coaches | Life coach |
| Based in | Massachusetts, United States |
| Credentials | Master Certified Life Coach |
| Experience | 10 years coaching |
Wesley Toma is a life and relationship coach in Massachusetts. He helps people in the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities with their relationships. He has more than 10 years of experience coaching and advocating for these groups. His work covers polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, kink, BDSM, and other non-traditional relationships. He helps clients become better partners, negotiators, and communicators. He is a Master Certified Life Coach.
What Wesley helps with
Wesley helps clients handle the hard parts of relationships. He focuses on partnership, negotiation, and communication.
- Becoming a better partner
- Negotiating in relationships
- Communicating with partners
- Polyamory and ethical non-monogamy
- Kink and BDSM relationships
- Non-traditional relationship styles
Who Wesley works with
Wesley works with people in the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. His clients include people in polyamorous relationships, ethically non-monogamous relationships, kink and BDSM relationships, and other non-traditional partnerships.
Background and qualifications
Wesley is a Master Certified Life Coach with over 10 years of experience. In that time he has coached and advocated for the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. His work includes polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, kink, BDSM, and other non-traditional relationships. He is based in Massachusetts.
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The CoachVouch take
Coaches kink and non-traditional relationships from his own experience as a kinky male in these communities.
Best for people in kink, polyamorous, or ethically non-monogamous relationships who want better communication and negotiation skills.
Common questions
How much does Wesley Toma charge?
Coaching with Wesley runs $110 to $200 an hour. Message Wesley from this page for an exact quote.
What does Wesley Toma help with?
Wesley Toma helps with becoming a better partner, negotiating in relationships, communicating with partners and polyamory and ethical non-monogamy.
Is Wesley Toma certified?
Wesley Toma lists: Master Certified Life Coach.
Does Wesley Toma coach people in polyamorous relationships?
Yes. He works with polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, kink, BDSM, and other non-traditional relationships.
How do I contact Wesley Toma?
Send Wesley a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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