Victoria Onken
Relationship coach for individuals and couples in Amsterdam
| Hourly rate range | $70 to $125 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | Couples |
| Based in | Amsterdam, Netherlands |
Victoria Onken is a relationship coach in Amsterdam. Victoria works with individuals and couples who are going through relationship change. Victoria's focus areas are ethical non-monogamy, desire asymmetry and jealousy. Victoria also helps clients whose long-term agreements no longer feel right. Victoria serves ethically non-monogamous couples, monogamous couples and singles. Victoria's clients are thoughtful adults who value nuance and want to handle love and change with care.
What Victoria helps with
Victoria helps people who feel overwhelmed or stuck in the same conflicts. Victoria also helps those who struggle to have hard talks without hurting trust.
- Ethical non-monogamy
- Desire asymmetry in a relationship
- Jealousy
- Long-term agreements that no longer feel right
- Repeating conflict patterns
- Having difficult conversations without damaging trust
- Feeling overwhelmed by relationship change
- Getting clear on what you want
Who Victoria works with
Victoria works with individuals and couples. Victoria's clients include ethically non-monogamous couples, monogamous couples and singles. Many come when they feel overwhelmed, stuck in repeated conflict, or unsure how to talk about hard topics. Victoria works with thoughtful adults who value nuance.
Background and qualifications
- Based in Amsterdam
- Works with individuals and couples
- Focus on ethical non-monogamy, desire asymmetry and jealousy
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The CoachVouch take
Victoria focuses on ethical non-monogamy, desire asymmetry and jealousy, and coaches both ethically non-monogamous and monogamous couples.
Best for adults facing relationship change, such as opening a relationship or handling jealousy or mismatched desire.
Common questions
How much does Victoria Onken charge?
Coaching with Victoria runs $70 to $125 an hour. Request an intro for an exact quote.
What does Victoria Onken help with?
Victoria Onken helps with ethical non-monogamy, desire asymmetry in a relationship, jealousy and long-term agreements that no longer feel right.
Does Victoria Onken work with non-monogamous couples?
Yes. Victoria coaches ethically non-monogamous couples, monogamous couples and singles.
How do I contact Victoria Onken?
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