Eileen Chao
Sex and relationship coach for high achievers in San Francisco
| Hourly rate range | $110 to $200 an hour |
|---|---|
| Focus areas | |
| Works with | LGBTQ+ and Professionals |
| Also coaches | Performance coach |
| Based in | San Francisco, California, United States |
| Sessions | Online and in person |
| Credentials | Certified Sexological Bodyworker; IPSA Certified Surrogate Partner; Master's in Psychology |
Eileen Chao is a sex and relationship coach and surrogate partner who works with high achievers on intimacy issues. She has more than a decade of experience. She is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and holds a master's in psychology. She acts as a practice partner and works with clients in real time, so change is felt and not only understood. She sees clients in person in San Francisco, by telehealth, or in a hybrid model.
What Eileen helps with
Eileen works with people who understand their patterns but still feel disconnected in intimate moments. Her clients often come with pain, shutdown or low desire.
- Sexual pain
- A long pattern of shutting down
- Low libido and mismatched libido
- Intimacy issues
- Performance anxiety
- Sexual shame and purity culture
- Sexual trauma
- Kink and BDSM concerns
Who Eileen works with
Eileen works with high achievers who have done therapy and read the books, yet still feel something is missing in intimate moments. She also lists work with trans, nonbinary and gender expansive clients, and with people facing sexual trauma or shame.
How Eileen works
Eileen uses an experiential and relational approach. As a practice partner, she steps into the relational dynamic with the client directly. The work happens in real time. Client and coach notice what is happening between them and inside the client. They look at patterns and try out other choices. Clients practice responding differently in the moment. Sessions can be in person, by telehealth, or in a hybrid model.
Background and qualifications
Eileen Chao is a sex and relationship coach and surrogate partner with over a decade of experience. She is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and an IPSA Certified Surrogate Partner. She holds a master's in psychology. Her work has been featured in the New York Times and Harper's Bazaar. Outside of her one-on-one client work, she trains and mentors upcoming surrogate partners with the Surrogate Partner Collective.
Eileen Chao pricing
Programs and services
- One-on-one sessions in person in San Francisco
- Telehealth sessions
- Hybrid in person and online model
Eileen Chao reviews
The CoachVouch take
She is a certified surrogate partner who works as a hands-on practice partner in real time with clients.
Best for high achievers who understand their patterns but still feel disconnected in intimate moments.
Common questions
How much does Eileen Chao charge?
Coaching with Eileen runs $110 to $200 an hour. Message Eileen from this page for an exact quote.
What does Eileen Chao help with?
Eileen Chao helps with sexual pain, a long pattern of shutting down, low libido and mismatched libido and intimacy issues.
Does Eileen Chao coach online?
Eileen is based in San Francisco, California, United States. Sessions are online and in person.
Is Eileen Chao certified?
Eileen Chao lists: Certified Sexological Bodyworker; IPSA Certified Surrogate Partner; Master's in Psychology.
Does Eileen Chao work with LGBTQ+ clients?
Yes. She lists trans, nonbinary and gender expansive clients among the people she works with.
How do I contact Eileen Chao?
Send Eileen a message from this page. It's free and takes a minute.
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